{"id":13,"date":"2025-10-13T15:54:58","date_gmt":"2025-10-13T15:54:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/esl.institute\/americanculture\/?p=13"},"modified":"2025-10-23T17:36:40","modified_gmt":"2025-10-23T17:36:40","slug":"conversation-and-communication-american-culture-etiquette-guide","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/esl.institute\/americanculture\/2025\/10\/13\/conversation-and-communication-american-culture-etiquette-guide\/","title":{"rendered":"Conversation and Communication: American Culture Etiquette Guide"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-audio\"><audio controls src=\"https:\/\/esl.institute\/americanculture\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/15\/2025\/10\/Episode-10-Conversation-and-Communication-Final.mp3\"><\/audio><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Introduction<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Understanding how Americans communicate can help you feel more comfortable and confident in social and professional situations. This guide explains the most important rules and customs for conversation in American culture.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Greetings and Introductions<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Common Greetings<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Americans use informal greetings in most situations:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>&#8220;Hi&#8221; or &#8220;Hello&#8221;<\/strong> &#8211; Standard greeting for anyone<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>&#8220;How are you?&#8221;<\/strong> or <strong>&#8220;How&#8217;s it going?&#8221;<\/strong> &#8211; Common greeting questions<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>&#8220;Good morning\/afternoon\/evening&#8221;<\/strong> &#8211; More formal, but still friendly<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Important<\/strong>: When someone asks &#8220;How are you?&#8221;, they usually expect a short, positive answer like &#8220;Good, thanks! How are you?&#8221; or &#8220;Fine, thanks!&#8221; They are not asking for detailed information about your life. This is a polite greeting, not a real question about your health.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Introducing Yourself<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>When meeting someone new:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Make eye contact and smile<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Say your name: &#8220;Hi, I&#8217;m Maria&#8221; or &#8220;Hello, my name is John&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Shake hands (firm handshake, not too strong or too weak)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You can add: &#8220;Nice to meet you&#8221; or &#8220;Pleased to meet you&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>Americans often use first names immediately, even with people they just met. This is normal and friendly, not disrespectful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Small Talk: The American Way<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What is Small Talk?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Small talk means light, friendly conversation about simple topics. Americans use small talk to be polite and build relationships. It happens everywhere: in elevators, waiting rooms, stores, and at work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Popular Small Talk Topics<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Safe topics<\/strong> for small talk:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Weather: &#8220;Beautiful day, isn&#8217;t it?&#8221; or &#8220;Can you believe this rain?&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Weekend plans: &#8220;Any plans for the weekend?&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Sports: &#8220;Did you see the game last night?&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Food and restaurants: &#8220;Have you tried the new cafe downtown?&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Entertainment: &#8220;Have you seen any good movies lately?&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Hobbies: &#8220;What do you like to do in your free time?&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Local events: &#8220;Are you going to the festival this weekend?&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Topics to avoid<\/strong> with people you don&#8217;t know well:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Money (salary, prices of personal items, debt)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Politics (can cause strong disagreements)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Religion (very personal topic)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Age and weight (considered rude to ask)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Personal health problems (unless the person shares first)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Controversial social issues<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How to Do Small Talk<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Start with a smile and friendly opening<\/strong>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>&#8220;Hi! How&#8217;s your day going?&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Keep it light and positive<\/strong>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Avoid complaining too much<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Focus on neutral, pleasant topics<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Ask open questions<\/strong>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>&#8220;What did you do this weekend?&#8221; (not just yes\/no)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;How was your vacation?&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Listen and show interest<\/strong>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Nod your head<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Say &#8220;Really?&#8221; or &#8220;That&#8217;s interesting!&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Ask follow-up questions<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Know when to end<\/strong>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>&#8220;Well, it was nice talking to you!&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;I should get going, but great to see you!&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Direct Communication Style<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Americans Usually Say What They Mean<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>American communication is generally <strong>direct<\/strong>. This means:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>People say their opinions clearly<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;Yes&#8221; means yes, &#8220;No&#8221; means no<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If someone disagrees, they often say so directly<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Silence does not always mean agreement<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>This directness is not considered rude in American culture. It shows honesty and respect for everyone&#8217;s time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Examples of Direct Communication<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>At work<\/strong>: &#8220;I disagree with this approach. I think we should try another method.&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>With friends<\/strong>: &#8220;I&#8217;m sorry, I can&#8217;t make it to your party.&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>At a store<\/strong>: &#8220;This doesn&#8217;t fit well. I&#8217;d like to return it.&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Being Polite While Being Direct<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Americans combine directness with polite language:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Use &#8220;please&#8221; and &#8220;thank you&#8221; often<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Start with positive words: &#8220;I appreciate your idea, but&#8230;&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Explain your reasons: &#8220;I can&#8217;t come because I have other plans&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Apologize when saying no: &#8220;I&#8217;m sorry, but I can&#8217;t help with that&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Important Politeness Phrases<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Magic Words<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Americans use these words many times every day:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Please<\/strong> &#8211; When asking for something<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Thank you \/ Thanks<\/strong> &#8211; After receiving help, gifts, or service<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>You&#8217;re welcome<\/strong> &#8211; Response to &#8220;thank you&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Excuse me<\/strong> &#8211; When you need to interrupt, pass by someone, or didn&#8217;t hear something<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>I&#8217;m sorry \/ Sorry<\/strong> &#8211; When you make a mistake or need to say no<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Other Useful Polite Phrases<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>&#8220;Would you mind&#8230;?&#8221; &#8211; Polite way to ask for something<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;Could you please&#8230;?&#8221; &#8211; Polite request<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;I&#8217;d appreciate it if&#8230;&#8221; &#8211; Very polite request<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;If you don&#8217;t mind&#8230;&#8221; &#8211; Before asking something personal<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;Excuse me for interrupting, but&#8230;&#8221; &#8211; When you need to interrupt<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Personal Space and Body Language<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Physical Distance<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Americans value personal space. The comfortable distance when talking is about <strong>arm&#8217;s length<\/strong> (60-90 cm or 2-3 feet).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Getting too close<\/strong> can make Americans uncomfortable, unless you know them well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Exceptions<\/strong>: Crowded places like buses or elevators &#8211; people understand there&#8217;s no choice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Eye Contact<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Making eye contact<\/strong> is very important in American culture:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Shows you are listening and interested<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Shows honesty and confidence<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Look at the person&#8217;s eyes when they speak<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Look at them when you speak too<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Not making eye contact<\/strong> might seem:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Rude or disinterested<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Dishonest<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Shy or lacking confidence<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Note<\/strong>: Don&#8217;t stare continuously &#8211; it&#8217;s okay to look away sometimes naturally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Touching<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Americans are generally <strong>less touchy<\/strong> than people in many other cultures:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Handshakes are standard for greetings<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Hugs are common between friends and family<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Touching strangers is not common<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Avoid touching someone&#8217;s arm, shoulder, or back unless you know them well<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Taking Turns in Conversation<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How Americans Share Conversation<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Americans expect everyone to participate in conversation:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Listen actively<\/strong> &#8211; Don&#8217;t interrupt while someone is speaking<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Wait for natural pauses<\/strong> to speak<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Ask questions<\/strong> to show interest<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Share your own experiences<\/strong> related to the topic<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Don&#8217;t dominate<\/strong> the conversation &#8211; let others talk too<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">When You Can Interrupt<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Usually, interrupting is considered rude. However, it&#8217;s acceptable to interrupt politely when:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You need to leave: &#8220;Sorry to interrupt, but I need to go now&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You have an urgent question: &#8220;Excuse me, can I ask a quick question?&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Someone is talking for too long: &#8220;That&#8217;s interesting! May I add something?&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Phone and Digital Communication<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Phone Etiquette<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Answering the phone<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Say &#8220;Hello&#8221; or &#8220;Hi, this is [your name]&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>In business: State your name and company<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>During calls<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Speak clearly and not too fast<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If you can&#8217;t talk, say: &#8220;I&#8217;m sorry, this isn&#8217;t a good time. Can I call you back?&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>In public places, use a quiet voice<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Ending calls<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Say goodbye: &#8220;It was nice talking to you. Talk to you soon!&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Don&#8217;t just hang up suddenly<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Text Messaging and Email<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Text messages<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Can be very informal with friends<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Use shorter messages<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>It&#8217;s okay to use abbreviations like &#8220;LOL&#8221; (laughing out loud) or &#8220;BTW&#8221; (by the way)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Emails<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Business emails are more formal<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Start with a greeting: &#8220;Hi [name]&#8221; or &#8220;Dear [name]&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>End with: &#8220;Best regards,&#8221; &#8220;Sincerely,&#8221; or &#8220;Thanks&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Respond within 24-48 hours when possible<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Important<\/strong>: In professional settings, don&#8217;t use all CAPITAL LETTERS &#8211; it looks like shouting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Topics and Boundaries<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What Americans Like to Talk About<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Casual settings<\/strong> (with acquaintances):<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Jobs and careers<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Hobbies and interests<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Travel experiences<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Movies, TV shows, books<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Food and cooking<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Sports and fitness<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>With closer friends<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Family and relationships<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Personal goals and dreams<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Challenges and problems<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>More personal opinions<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Sensitive Topics<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Be careful with these topics, especially with new acquaintances:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Money<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Don&#8217;t ask how much someone earns<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Don&#8217;t ask how much something cost (house, car, etc.)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Don&#8217;t talk about your salary unless very close<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Personal questions<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Don&#8217;t ask someone&#8217;s age (especially women)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Don&#8217;t comment on weight or appearance<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Don&#8217;t ask about marital status or children right away<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Don&#8217;t ask about someone&#8217;s immigration status<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Politics and religion<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>These can cause strong disagreements<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Americans have very different political views<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>It&#8217;s okay to discuss if people want to, but don&#8217;t assume or push<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Compliments and Responses<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Giving Compliments<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Americans give compliments frequently:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>&#8220;I like your shirt!&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;You did a great job on that project!&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;Your English is really good!&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;That&#8217;s a great idea!&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>This is meant to be friendly and encouraging.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Receiving Compliments<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>When someone compliments you, simply say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>&#8220;Thank you!&#8221; or &#8220;Thanks!&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;I appreciate it!&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;That&#8217;s kind of you to say!&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Don&#8217;t<\/strong> deny the compliment or say you&#8217;re not good. In American culture, accepting compliments politely shows confidence and appreciation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Incorrect<\/strong>: &#8220;Oh no, my English is terrible.&#8221; <strong>Correct<\/strong>: &#8220;Thank you! I&#8217;m still learning, but I&#8217;m trying my best.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Workplace Communication<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Professional Communication Norms<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>In meetings<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Arrive on time<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Listen without interrupting<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Take notes if needed<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Ask questions when appropriate<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Speak up with your ideas &#8211; participation is valued<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>With managers<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You can usually speak directly (respectfully)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Ask questions if you don&#8217;t understand<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Use professional language: &#8220;Could we discuss&#8230;?&#8221; instead of &#8220;I need to talk&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>With colleagues<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Be friendly and respectful<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Make small talk to build relationships<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Offer help when you can<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Say &#8220;please&#8221; and &#8220;thank you&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Email at work<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Use proper grammar and complete sentences<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Start with &#8220;Hi [Name]&#8221; or &#8220;Hello [Name]&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Be clear about what you need<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>End professionally: &#8220;Best regards&#8221; or &#8220;Thanks&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Active Listening<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Show You Are Listening<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Americans expect you to show you&#8217;re listening:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Verbal responses<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>&#8220;Mm-hmm&#8221; or &#8220;Yeah&#8221; &#8211; Show you&#8217;re following<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;Really?&#8221; &#8211; Show surprise or interest<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;That&#8217;s great!&#8221; &#8211; Show positive reaction<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;I see&#8221; or &#8220;I understand&#8221; &#8211; Show comprehension<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Non-verbal signals<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Nod your head<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Make eye contact<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Lean slightly forward<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Have an interested facial expression<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Don&#8217;t look at your phone<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Ask follow-up questions<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>&#8220;What happened next?&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;How did you feel about that?&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;What did you do then?&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Common Mistakes to Avoid<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Standing too close<\/strong> &#8211; Remember the arm&#8217;s length rule<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Not making eye contact<\/strong> &#8211; This seems disrespectful or dishonest<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Saying &#8220;yes&#8221; when you mean &#8220;no&#8221;<\/strong> &#8211; Americans prefer honest, direct answers<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Being too formal<\/strong> &#8211; 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